Fix premature ejaculation

Premature ejaculation (aka PE) is one of the most common sexual disorders in males. It’s estimated that it occurs in 4-39 % of men. Premature ejaculation is an issue that affects men’s self-esteem and confidence in bed. It can lead to mutual disappointment for the man and his partner and might cause depression and problems in the relationship.

Not being able to perform as desired can lead to frustration and lack of confidence in the ability to satisfy a partner.

What is premature ejaculation?

To help with premature ejaculation, it’s important to understand its causes. Premature ejaculation, aka rapid climax, can be measured using data collected from past surveys, which have shown that the average sex duration is from 2-12 minutes. Men diagnosed with premature ejaculation climax in 1-2 minutes. In extreme cases, they can ejaculate before actual penetration. The most pressing issue for men is not being able to please their partner. This can vary with different partners, as each woman reaches her climax differently, too.[1]

PE can be caused by different behavioral and genetic factors. The biological function of sex is procreating, and it’s something that we cannot avoid. Rapid ejaculation sometimes occurs to increase the probability of getting the woman pregnant.

Another important factor to consider is an oversensitive nervous system. The sexual act is simply too overwhelming for the system, which may lead to premature ejaculation. This might affect a proportion of younger men, but their ejaculation time can improve with age, because nerve signals take more time to travel throughout the body.

In a study of 1326 men with PE, lifelong premature ejaculation endured only in 736 men (a total of 74.4%) and PE was present in 253 men. With age, the number of men with PE significantly decreased.

Masturbation often takes little time, as men seek immediate gratification. Some research suggests that this repetitive behavior might cause PE during sex, too. On the other hand, masturbating before sex can even help your PE.[2]

Underlying medical problems may also cause PE. Therefore, it’s important to find out if the reason for your PE does not lie in any neurological problem or problems with your prostate.

Other factors that might contribute to PE are substance abuse (drugs, alcohol) and severe obesity accompanied by addiction to food that causes inflammation. To concentrate on solving the real cause of your PE, first make sure that you are generally healthy. If you are, then explore further.[3]

The different ways and techniques of improving issues with PE

6 simple solutions to prevent PE

We will share 6 different ways to deal with PE. It might be a problem now, but with proper techniques, it may improve. Premature ejaculation is curable, and you can start with following the tips.[4]

1.     Kegel exercise for men

Kegel exercise can help you with premature ejaculation and work in the long term. With this exercise, you train the muscles which control ejaculation. If you want to locate the muscles responsible for this, try to go to the toilet and stop in the middle of urination. You will feel the muscles between your penis and your butt contract.

You can do Kegel exercise anytime, anywhere. After you locate the muscles that are responsible for ejaculation, you can train them for at least 5 minutes every day, or more often if you wish. Regular Kegel exercise might cure your PE entirely and permanently.[5]

2.     The stop and start technique

The stop and start technique can be very effective, as well. When you start to feel your climax near, try to stop. Wait for around 20 seconds and resume. You can do this every time in these situations, as long as you think it’s necessary.

Talk to your partner about the technique and explain why this technique is good and how it might improve your future sex life.[6]

3.     The breathing technique

Taking a closer look at your body, you will be able to notice that you breathe more deeply and quickly when you are about to climax. Try some exercises that will help you control the way you breathe.

This will not only help you with premature ejaculation, but can also help with being more composed in everyday life.

4.     The compression technique

This technique is easy to apply and proven to be effective. Try squeezing your penis when you feel like you are about to ejaculate. You can forcibly repel the impulse with your touch – just make sure you don’t do it when you are at the “point of no return.”

5.     Try masturbating before having sex

It might take you longer to climax if you have already masturbated beforehand. This might help you last longer when you are having fun with your partner.

6.     Try changing sexual positions

Some positions may make you climax earlier. These include missionary, doggie style and whatever turns you on the most. Try to choose positions that make you last longer, as different people have different needs and there is no final advice we can give, but to listen to body.

Try applying all the techniques mentioned above if you have the time and patience. If you apply all of them, regularly, or only the ones that are easiest for you, you might improve or eliminate your premature ejaculation.

On the road to a life without premature ejaculation, we can help you with our Pelay gel. It might take weeks or months to improve or completely eliminate your PE. In the meantime, you can give our gel a try. Apply it before you decide to have fun with your partner and enjoy up to 30 minutes of satisfying sex.

Common questions about premature ejaculation

PE has always been a common condition. Many men with PE have a problem talking about it, but any advice on how to eliminate it definitely comes in handy. We will guide you through some answers to the commonly asked question about this pressing issue.[7]

Is premature ejaculation a sign of a serious health problem?

In most of the cases, premature ejaculation is the result of psychological factors, such as depression, anxiety, stress, guilt and relationship problems. In rare cases, premature ejaculation can occur as a result of trauma or damage to your nervous system.

Psychological and physical factors can play a role. However, psychological problems are the number one cause of premature ejaculation. This means that most cases of premature ejaculation are not a sign of a serious health issues.[8]

How to properly diagnose pmature ejaculation

Since the roots of the problem are, in many cases, psychological, relaxation and meditation in everyday life can help you with anxiety and stress. Regular talks with your partner and solving relationship problems can improve your relationship and lead to a more pleasurable and relaxing sex life.

After considering this, you can always visit a mental health service provider. You may have to share details about your sex life and your sex history so together you can to figure out the root of the problem and how and when it started.

If you suspect that your condition may be physical, a urologist can take samples of sperm and urine and run some clinical tests to diagnose a pre-existing physical condition.[9]

Should I wear condoms during sex?

Various debates have been opened regarding whether or not condoms really decrease pleasure during sex. If you have a steady partner that you trust, you don’t have to wear a condom to protect yourself from STD, but you might want to wear one to help with your premature ejaculation or avoid getting your partner pregnant.

In case you have different sexual partners or an open relationship, you should always wear condoms, to protect yourself from dangerous STD’s (sexually transmitted diseases).

Nevertheless, condoms can be very helpful in preventing premature ejaculation.

The condoms that will be most helpful are the ones covered with benzocaine enzyme, like variations of Trojan and Durex. A thicker condom is even better, as it might minimize the excitement a little and help you last longer. The benzocaine enzyme may have an opposite effect on your partner, as she might start losing sensitivity after long periods of use. Talk with your partner and try to find a proper solution together.[10]

Are there any creams/gels for premature ejaculation?

Different types of anesthetic creams are available. One of the most popular is Pelay gel.

Pelay gel contains 2 substances derived from herbs (plants). The gel numbs the nerve endings of the penis, helping to control premature ejaculation. The gel is applied to the top of the penis. You should apply it 25 – 30 minutes before intercourse, as it needs time to take full effect. Of course. You can use those 25 minutes for hot foreplay with your partner. After the main act, it’s advised to wash off the remaining gel as it may cause long-term numbness if not used properly. Pelay and some other products can be used with condoms.

Are there any medications for PE?

According to scientists, there are quite a few medications for PE in the process of development. Some of these drugs are already being used but still require additional tests and improvements.[11]

These drugs are:

  • Modafinil: Used for a very long time but for narcolepsy related issues. Research shows that proper modifications of this drug can potentially help to eliminate PE.
  • Silodosin: Known by doctors for treatment of enlarged prostate. Some research has shown that it has the potential of curing erectile dysfunction, too. They placed it under trial in the U.S. and the trial has indicated some positive results.
  • Dapoxetine: Currently being researched in U.S.-based clinical trials.

Other popular medications to treat PE include:

– Topical anesthetics: TA can be administered as sprays, gels or pills. Most of them contain lidocaine, prilocaine or benzocaine enzymes, which all numb nerve endings on the penis. Creams and pills require a prescription, but sprays are available over the counter. These products may be very helpful but have some side effects. Some users reported cases of minimized sexual pleasure and penile insensitivity. The same effect manifested in their partners, too.[12]

– Oral medications: Most oral medications haven’t been approved by the FDA for wide use in treating PE, including:

Antidepressants, such as Peroxetine, helps delay orgasm. This type of medication normally takes 5-10 days of regular use, to take proper effect. It might take from 2-3 weeks to notice the full effect. Other antidepressants include Fluoxetine, Setraline and Escitalopram.[13]

Analgetics, such as Tramadol – a commonly used drug to relieve pain – is sometimes prescribed for PE. The side effects of Tramadol include dizziness, headaches, sleepiness and nausea.

Phosphodiesterase-5 inhibitors, such as Viagra and Cialis, may also be used. These work best with PE and erectile dysfunction cases when used with SSRI’s.[14]

Pelay gel is simple to use, as it’s highly lubricating and easy to apply. It will work up to 45 minutes, to ensure a long, satisfying experience. The gel is dermatologically tested and hypoallergenic, which can alleviate away any worries about allergic reactions.[15]

Final thoughts

Premature ejaculation is not a life-threatening condition but may be a deterrent to a healthy sex life. The good news is that it is mostly of a psychological nature and can be helped with simple relaxation techniques and regular talks with your partner. We also provided you with some techniques that you can use in your everyday life to treat this condition. The elimination of premature ejaculation is very important, as it might cause frustration for you and your partner. Think about the causes of premature ejaculation and try to find solutions that will suit you best.

Premature ejaculation is unique and should be treated as such. Most importantly, don’t worry, as you are not alone and this condition can be completely treatable!


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[10] https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/16490029

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[15] https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/26457680